I’ve personally seen kids cry, shout and get all emotional when they lose a game, and I believe it’s a process where they start to learn how to handle their emotions and accepting failures as part and parcel of life.
Here are 3 out of the many ways we teach kids about failures in the game of Basketball.
1. No Trophy for everyone
Somewhere along the line, we became a society that preached instant gratification. Like a giant carnival, our slogan became “everybody wins all the time.” We know it’s not true. It’s also a terrible example to set. Schools, academies and teams should stop giving false compliments and start to be harder on their students.
“You should worry not when a coach is hard on your child. You should when he is not hard enough!”. – unknown
Losing is every bit as important in human growth as winning. Rewarding your child for doing nothing will teach him just that. Nothing.
2. Leave It All On The Court
Boxing legend Joe Frazier once said, “If I lose, I’ll walk away and never feel bad because I did all I could. There was nothing more to do.” The most common phrase in sports has to be “leave it all on the field!” Explain to your kids to never cheat themselves on effort and they will always gain from it. No matter the outcome. I certainly believe that if our trainee worked as hard as they can during training, and give it all out on the court, the rest is up to the game itself to decide.
What we can do later is not to harp on the lost, but to review the games through video sessions or discussions to figure out what went wrong and right to do the necessary correctional training.
3. Failure is part of Life
Failure happens. In life and in basketball, it can be small, like a missed shot in a basketball game, or it can be big like a turnover during a crucial possession. We are all going to fail at other things in life, too, from relationships to exams, work projects and more at some point in our lives. Learning how to accept failure and stand up again is an important life lesson for everyone.
Learning how to analyse what happened so that it does not happen again is another one.
Without this, those moments could dishearten a child and have more of a devastating emotional effect than is healthy. Holding onto embarrassment, frustration, and anger stemming from past mistakes can sour future attempts to succeed. Having past experience with failure and recovery, though, makes it easier to take on new challenges fearlessly.